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I have to say when I read that last post it felt like I was saying it. I know I have alot to say but just ignore it if its too much. I am in the same boat- I dont know if it makes you feel any better but know you are not alone. Let me start by saying I am a 36 year old single woman, so when I start feeling bad about my situation there is no one to talk to. None of my friends own businesses so they dont understand and they think I am crazy for doing what I do. I hope you and your husband know how lucky you are just to have eachother. I bought a successful business a year a a half ago. I used to come in and help them out when it was busy, I knew the family that I bought it from and knew his lifestyle was much richer than mine so I thought I would be fine. They never worked very much. He had 2 kids and a wife. I was looking at all this probably more than his financials, regardless after buying the place there was a problem that was never staightened with the lease. Within 2 months I had to move. I have never done any of this before. I had 6,000 start up after the moving expenses I thought I was still doing okay. I didnt have any money, but almost everything was paid. Needless to say, I got behind on taxes and am still currently 7,000 behind in taxes. I was sooo depressed a couple of months ago I was surely going down a mental path of no good. There were days where I just felt like crying all day- I have to say that was when I stumbled on to this site. Actually the mag. was sent to me and I dont know why- had never gotten one before. Just knowing these guys are here to help gave me my first bit of relief. The next was all the great ideas. I read through the archives and just couldnt get enough. This site reminded me of why I was here. It probably saved my mind. Suddenly I had the energy to start doing anything I could to bring in more business. I have done all the doorhanging and went knocking on doors at condos. Either way, I was brought back to life.
Secondly, I dont know about your personal life but I had just come from a job making good money and only working maybe 30 hours, weekends off and nights too. I had a great social life and I would take long walks and bike rides. I think what was so depressing is I stopped my life. I just bought my first treadmill, and now I just make sure I go out with my friends at least once a week. I give myself the permission to spend that $50. a week. Before I didnt. Exercise and laughter are always great medicine.
Sorry so long but I empathize with you. Im still behind the same amount in taxes, my personal finances are disgusting, hoping for summer to catch me back up. We are already getting alot busier. Whatever happens you already know what the worst thing that could happen is. I actually went to see a lawyer about bankruptcy. Would hate to do it, but if that and maybe the feeling of failing is the worst that can happen, we all know we are still so much luckier than a lot of people on the world. The whole time Im on my treadmill now, or even in the shower, first thing in the morning remember how lucky you are, I make a list. Im so grateful for my dog,health, family, life…
Hang in there youll be in my thoughts. Hope none of you guys out there need a tissue…